I dont know about you but when some one says get over it, it is the wrong thing to say. Yes you can out it all under the carpet and ignore the problems but like I did for ages exactly that hide the problems away but like me it hits you when you are least expecting it too. And sometimes an association to something brings the problem that you have hidden or forgotten because it is just too painful to deal with that problems.
For years I could not talk about the abuse and now I hide away fro. The fact my grandma has gone.