.Confronting the abuser is very important when you are healing from the abuse you suffered as a child.
It is not easy to confront the abuser so here are some steps to prepare you for confronting your abuse: e.g.
) You need to be ready to tell him or her what they did to you and that the abuse they put on to you was wrong.
2) You must have some one with you so you do not go alone..
3) You must be in control of them not them be in control of you.
4) Find a neutral place to meet up and make sure that there are other people around.
5) Go when you are ready and take your time.
Control the Abuser: Acknowledgment.
I have confronted my abuser and told him what damage he has done to me and he has said sorry which is very important. He acknowledged what he did wrong and know we talk over the Internet.
Control the Abuser: Meeting Places.
If you want to stay in contact with them which does happen sometimes. You must be in control of the meeting places and always have someone with you. You do not have to see them any more but some people who have been abused by a family member do keep in touch with them.
Confronting the Abuser:How You will be Feeling.
You will be having mixed feeling about the abuser and that is normal. You will be feeling very angry with the damage they caused and that is a normal reaction. You will be angry if your school work suffered.
Confronting the Abuser:About me to You.
1) My school work suffered as a result of the abuse.
2) I had no friends or I felt I could not bring them home.
I had a low self esteem all these things the abuser took away
I was trying to tell you what damage it had on me so you do not need to feel alone.
Confronting the Abuser: Warning About Abuser.
I have just realised that my Dad who abused me is not willing to change and heal and he might be still abusing others. If your abuser is willing to change brilliant but you must see if he or she is really meaning it.
If the abuser is not willing to change keep away because you will get hurt all over again.
I thought my Dad had changed but he not letting God into his life to really change. To change you have to be very stronge in your mind and that is hard. And very well worth it.
The healing does take a long time but nothing is impossible with God and Jesus. Please listen to Joyce Meyer because she helps me know that I am not alone. I do not want you to feel alone either and it is nice to have support around you.
God is stronger than the devil and whether you are an abuser or have been abused you can change if you want to. To be free is well worth it.
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